I've been through this...still going through the pain of this at times too. I've actually asked this question and would like to know what others think and how they cope when they are estranged from someone they still love very much. I will share with you myexperiences of what to do/what not to do, and how to care for yourself.
STEPS
1. Do not approach an issue with someone who says they want
nothing to do with you, when you do not have enough
distance from the problem and the person .
2. Give the person some space.
3. Stay busy .
4. Seek therapy if the hurt disrupts daily activities .
5. Give yourself some grace. When relationships fall apart it isn't usually ALL one person's fault. Forgive yourself.
6. Focus on making good changes in you life .
7. Leave the door open for the person you love and miss to come back in, but do not try to drag them back in.
8. Write about how you feel.
Accept that sometimes a relationship cannot be fixed
Accept that sometimes estrangement is the only option for a destructive relationship no matter how much it hurts, it can be the only way you can limit the pain.
TIPS
* Sometimes is can be helpful to write the person a letter. However, sometimes it can be harmful and cause more hurt. So assess the situation and think over which is the best choice. An alternative to this can be writing a letter without the intention of sending it and destroying it.
* If they have another relationship and seem to be happy...its best you get over them because most likely they are over you.
WARNING
It can take a while to heal from the losing someone you love.
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